Blogs about what life brings to me at a personal level and in my official capacity as CTO, Curologic. There will be a mix of technical as well as personal blogs in here. Whatever I write, however, will be my personal view on the topics of my interest and not representing my organization's views.
Where do I stay?
Bachelors not allowed Is a sign that greets you at the
entry of many societies in Pune, especially in areas like Aundh, Pimple
Saudagar etc. that are closer to the IT Hub in the city – Hinjewadi. Isn’t this
like stereotyping an entire set of people? And I used to believe that
stereotyping isn’t a good idea. One must not have a prejudice against anyone
and must allow the other person to prove himself/herself.
If not here, then Where do I stay? It is unfortunate that
some of our bachelor friends are forced to ask this question every now and
The various industries (mostly IT) in Hinjewadi area today
employ upwards of 1 lac people. This is the floating population that comes in
to work daily and returns home in the evening. They do create traffic problems,
but this isn’t about the traffic issues. It would be safe to assume that about 30%
of this population are bachelors (given the average age of the IT
organizations) and many of them have come from out station to create a
livelihood for themselves. The issue is where do these 30K people stay?
Many societies have banned bachelors from staying in their
premises on the pretext that they create nuisance and their presence is
detrimental to good and safe family environment. While there are bad fish
everywhere, do we really think that all the bachelors are creating issues? At
the same time are all families really setting good examples of how to live in a
society and inculcate good family values? So why single out bachelor tenants
A simple question to all those ‘family’ folks standing in
the forefront and feeling proud of having invoked this ban, where they born
married? Didn’t they grow up like all others and weren’t they bachelors at some
stage in their lives? Do they claim that they were good well-mannered bachelors
setting the right example? And if they were, why can’t the ones of today can
be? Or are these people claiming that they were the last of such a breed and
the ones now have suddenly lost all moral values? But then isn’t that a tricky
question. If they were good people, they would have taught good values to their
kids and those kids with good parents, and good values would have grown to
become good people themselves, so how come they are now suddenly labeled as not
good? Is then that a flaw in that bachelor or the family he/she belongs to?
Another question is if these families have thought about
future? About their own kids? They will also grow up, will go someplace to
study and the find a job. What happens if tomorrow everyone follows suit and
bachelors are banned all over. Where will the kids stay? Ah! But I am
forgetting. These are good kids from good families, who will grow up to be great
people. It is only today’s bachelors that are not well behaved, right? How ironical!!!
Does anyone recall Satyamev Jayate, the show that Aamir Khan
anchored and it got record breaking viewership? Most of the problems shown
there are those plaguing the so called family folks. The female foeticide, the
child molestation, the honor killing, mostly had examples from families.
Banning all is just trying to look away from the problem and
trying to create a solution that doesn’t really addresses the issue, but
outcastes an entire generation of people. Yes, I agree that there are some of those
who really cross the line, but then we should punish only those and not
everyone else. Let’s say if a male commits a crime, we don’t throw entire
neighborhood or all males of that age into jail, do we? Societies can easily
create a set of rules that everyone should follow to maintain the harmony of
the society and anyone violating it should be asked to leave and this should be
equally applicable to families and bachelors, anyone staying as tenant. As a
punishment, some public service could also be imposed like watering the
gardens, cleaning the society or anything else, which could become an example
for people intending to create trouble?
If you are thinking that it is easier said than done, then
you are wrong. The society where I stay, we have this working for the past 5-6
years. We have bachelors as tenants in our society and all stay amicably. In fact
in one of society events, where people had put up food stalls, it was the
bachelor’s stall serving corn bhaji that sold the most plates. They had to run
back home to cook fresh stock at least two to three times, given the demand. Yes,
we have had our share of unwanted incidents and we have promptly asked those
specific individuals to leave.
Even legally this isn’t allowed. See some discussions here
While owners can object to this rules as in the Pune Mirror
article, the owners may be a bit apprehensive to take any such steps for fear
of repercussions later like at the time of resale of the flat, society make
create trouble in granting NOC.
Bachelors have an option to appeal in consumer court for
discrimination against them. With a large population being affected, they can
come together and raise their voice collectively. But I will strongly urge them
to get their act together as well. They need to think with an open mind if
breaking rules, creating nuisance for maybe just a little bit of fun really
worth it? There are legitimate ways and places to have fun. Even within the society
you are staying and want to do a late night, you can do it, but with proper
decency and being accommodative of the fact that others in the next flat aren’t
doing a night out with you. Is it really worth being adamant and creating that
nuisance factor and then being outcast and banned from living in any society?
I think societies need to rethink on their strategy and
figure out a better solution that is a win-win for all. They should think of
innovative ways to solve the issue and be a leader in that space rather than
compete against other societies on who will throw out all the bachelors first. Hinjewadi
based organizations and associations like HIA can also possibly take up this
cause. An option that organizations can consider is vouch for the character of
their employees, but at the same time link it to say employment. In case of complaints
not only the person has to leave the society premises, but will also stand to
lose his/her job.
More than 2 years back I had written about the ever growing problem of banning bachelors from staying, in many of Pune Societies. The problem hasn't been resolved and I am definitely surprised how come those affected by this, the bachelor community, which is pretty sizable in number, hasn't acted on this yet, when we all know that this isn't legal.
But the good thing is that Pune Police has finally decided to do something about this on their own and address this growing menace. The bachelors probably don't make as much nuisance as this self proclaimed ban by the societies has.
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